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How To Ask A Guy Out? 15 Perfect Ways To Do It.

How to ask a guy out? If you are thing about this question, it means you are brave enough to tackle the mental tension anyone would feel while starting a new relationship and that too by going against the traditions.

In earlier times, only a few girls were able to think of asking a guy out. It doesn’t looks traditional for a girl to ask a guy out. But if something is traditional, it doesn’t mean to be continued forever. In this 21st century, you may say ‘who cares about this so called tradition‘ and willing to ask your guy for a date. If that is, I would say that you are pretty bold because it is not as easy as it looks.

Asking a guy out is very stressful situation for girls as they are familiar with the practice of being asked by a guy. When you are changing the existing practice, you should know the answers of different ‘how to’s to proceed in a proper manner. I hear different questions from different angles by many girls who might be extra possessive about their guy and don’t want to see him going out with other girl.

You need to make your first move by asking him out if you don’t want to see your would be partner going out with some other girl. You can’t wait for him to approach you for a date as you are not aware whether he has any feelings for you or not. It is also not simple to go to your guy and ask him “would you like to go for a coffee with me?”

Fortunately there are an abundant of ways available to ask your guy out. Telephones, text message and social media platforms are there for you to help you out of this situation. I have also suggested some ways to ask him without being worried.

Relationship psychologist James Bauer’s has published his new video in which he talks about these natural biological instincts in more detail which is easy to understand. In this video, James reveals a relationship “secret” which is known to only a few women in the world.

You can watch the video here.

Why you should figure out: How to ask a guy out?

You may be wandering whether you should ask your guy out or you need to wait for him to approach you first. If you are not confident enough about how and when to approach your guy, then you may wait for him to approach you for a date. But waiting is not a good option as you may be running into many other risks.

You should be questioning yourself, how to ask a guy out, because if you are waiting for his move then after a period of time he may not be available for you. You may miss the chance. The older you get the harder it become to find an available match for yourself. Waiting may make you missing out on things you want.

Women empowerment talks are all over the globe, whole world is promoting women to move forward and take initiative. Women are becoming bold and even conquering the hardest of jobs on earth. This is another reason which leaves girls with no excuses.

You want to go out with your man, your man may be having the same emotions for you but he is hesitating to ask you. He might be fearing over not to be understood wrong for his actions. He is having a clear intention and respect for you but he is not aware of your emotions with respect to him. This may be a reason, he don’t want to take the risk. By asking him first, you can make him feel comfortable and this way your relationship could go through the roof.

All of these are sufficient reasons to make you think about asking your guy out.

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Why less girls think: How to ask a guy out?

Above I have mentioned some important reasons to make women think about asking a guy out but what is the reason only few of them are taking a step forward?

In today’s time also a few girls take a bold step of asking a guy out. Because you need to have enough courage to make your first move when you are not sure about his reaction. If you are thinking of asking your guy for a date, you might be afraid of after effects. You may be having a fear of being rejected.

Traditional thinking and the environment created by our stories (in books & movies) put women in a state to desire someone would come after them.

Generally girls don’t want to go against the traditional way (of being asked by a guy rather than asking him) which is actually convenient for them. Many girls thinks that if anything goes wrong, it may disfigure their image in the eyes of that guy which may be harmful for the future of relationship.

Girls also don’t want to hear a ‘no’ from the guy which may make them feel embarrassed. This may be stressful and depressive too.

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How to ask a guy out? Try these 15 ways.

There are many ways to ask your guy out on a date with lowest of risk. You don’t need to try all of them, you just need to try that way which you are confident in and that suits you the best. Gather your courage for the betterment of your relationship. Being confident plays an important role in a relationship especially for a woman which may also help her to make a guy miss her when she is apart. Some preparation is also required to play a safe game. It will give you the required confidence and remove all your nervousness.

1. Just say it!

how to ask a guy out

If you understands your emotions clearly and have decided to go this way, you need to be emotionally and mentally strong. You should have enough courage to express yourself and say, ‘I like you’ and be ready to face the rejection. But before revealing anything you need to assess his body language and try to figure out the signs that he likes you too. You also need to be mentally prepared to hear the instant rejection and if he says no, don’t break down and believe that someone better is meant for you.

If you want to make your man to fall in love with you obsessively, check out this free video here.

You may also like to read: How to tell if a guy likes you at work?

2. Find some common interest

how to ask a guy out

Here’s another strategy on how to ask a guy out that seems very natural. If you could find a common hobby or interest in both of you, that would be incredible. If you both are having a common hobby of cycling, then asking him for a cycling trip on weekend would be a great idea to get close to each other. Asking for a common hobby looks so natural that he may not even think that it is a date plan.

Getting into a common activity would be just like having a joyful time together. That way you will get one-to-one personal attention. By spending a good time together, you will get an idea of his feelings for you. If he feels the same way you feel, then you can plan a proper date in future. If you don’t see a serious signal from his side then you won’t be embarrassed and look for planning more of such activities in the future.

If you want him to date you and miss you desperately when you are apart, check out this free video here.

You may also like to read: How To Make Him Miss You? (22 Secret Ways)

3. A friend may help you out

how to ask a guy out

When you are thinking of how to ask a guy out, a friend may help you out. Your friend as well as his friend, both can help you in their own way.

One of your close friend may go to the guy you are eyeing and ask him directly, ‘my friend over there is seeing you since long and want to go out with you. Interested?’ When you are in a restaurant or a party with your friend and want to talk to a handsome guy, then you may ask your friend to go to that guy and ask him to join your table. No man would deny that hot offer.

In the second scenario, if you know your guy’s close friends, you may approach any of them to ask your guy to join you at a date. If you are friend with your crush’s best friend then you may share your feelings with him and ask him to help you out. He would help you out as he is a friend of yours too. He can introduce you to your crush and can also help you in understanding your crush’s nature which could make your date a grand success.

If you want him to take care of you like princess, check out this free video here.

You may also like to read: Does He Love Me? Signs That Tell You All

4. How to ask a guy out over text

How to ask a guy out over text

A text message looks very easy to send but it becomes very difficult when you are not aware of the mood of the recipient. When texting, you are not aware whether he is in correct mental situation. He may not be in a perfect mental situation to accept your proposal.

In order to increase the chances of his acceptance, you need to make an assessment of his current mindset. For that you can drop one or two messages as pre invitation texts seeking the heat of the situation at guy’s end. You can also have a healthy warm up conversation with him over phone or face to face before texting him your invitation to go out. By doing this you can make an assessment about his probable response. If you assess that the response is going to be a rejection then you may drop your idea of going out for now and look for another opportunity at another favorable time.

If you notice, he used to talk or text you regularly then it’s a good sign to ask him out. When you are already having a nice conversation over text messages, you may send your invitation text in the middle of the conversation. Try to be short, simple and clear.

Use texts to make men love you.

5. How to ask a guy out as a friend

How to ask a guy out as a friend

You might be having crush on any of your male friend. It is very easy to ask your friend out for hanging out. Behave like a good friend and make yourself very clear to him. Don’t try to make any story. Talk to him like a close friend who care for him. Tell him clearly about what you want, take his opinion and suggest what to do. It could be something like, “I want to spend some time with you, what do you say? Let’s meet at the city garden tomorrow morning.”

Or you can make it very easy by simply asking him out as a friend. When you are having a good time outside with him, tell him about your feeling for him when you find a correct moment.

If you want him to connect with you on a much deeper level, check out this free video here.

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6. How to ask a guy out personally

How to ask a guy out personally

If you are thinking over how to ask a guy out, you would get the immediate response from inside to ask him in person. But asking someone to go out is not as easy as it looks. Here are some sample ways to proceed which maximizes the chances of a positive response.

You may start the conversation by wishing him good morning. After having some warm up conversation, you may ask him out. He may be having a different state of mind before your arrival, so a warm up conversation normalize everything.

A sweet smiling face gives a positive vibe which have strong attraction power. Which stops him from saying no to your invitation. Collect your confidence, don’t be nervous.

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While having the starter conversation, you need to read his mind. He may be expressing his eagerness or hesitation to go out with you. You have to read between the lines.

He might be busy today or having a better plan than yours, so you have to show your presence of mind and be flexible with your plan. If you are afraid of asking him personally then you may call him at a good time and after a little chit-chat, when you find the correct time, you can come to the point and ask him to go out.

If you want him to love you in all walks of life and get him to commit to you, check out this free video here.

7. How to ask a guy out by writing a note

How to ask a guy out by writing a note

Writing a hand written note looks to be old fashioned but it’s cute. If you are wandering about how to ask a guy out, but hesitate to ask him in person then writing a note could be a better and safe idea. If thinking about ‘which method of asking to be tried’ is creating much pressure in your mind then you can just make a note asking ‘Wanna go out with me this weekend?” along with your contact number. It is one of the easiest as well as low risk method of asking him out without facing him.

You may try writing him a cute poem and ask him out. A short and cute message would create your girly image in his mind which may attract him to your date.

Leave that note at a place which is accessible by him only and regularly. It may be a place like his locker, his car, book, his bag or you can put it in his pocket.

You may also like to read: Good Morning Text For Him – Start His Day With Smile

Another cute way is giving him the note when you both are together and separating for your respective ways. This way you avoid facing him and he will get time to think about your invitation.

This way he would get a feeling that you care for him and give him importance. Generally, men appreciate when women show courage and takes any initiative.

Use texts to make men love you.

8. How to ask a guy out on your birthday

How to ask a guy out on your birthday

If he is your close friend and aware of your birthday, he will wish you on your birthday. At that time, you can ask him for a date as your birthday gift.

If he is not aware of your birthday, you can tell him that it’s your birthday and invite him for celebration.

Asking for a date as your birthday wish is the most safe option to ask a guy out. A guy would never say ‘no’ to a girl on her birthday.

Check out this free video here to learn how you can make your man to accept that he loves you.

9. Start with a cup of coffee

ask a guy out for coffee

If you are thinking how to ask a guy out, then asking him for a cup of coffee is a basic thing to start with. Asking for coffee is such a safe thing that anyone could ask anybody even if no emotions involved. That would be a rare occasion when someone will reject your proposal of having coffee together. Offering a cup of coffee is considered a normal but great gesture.

You just need to ask your guy, ‘would you like to have a cup of coffee with me?’ and that’s it. Coffee is not a big thing that someone would reject. It doesn’t require much time or money. It is so low-pressure and flexible that if things don’t go as expected then you can end it within minutes. But what if everything go well, you can stretch it for hours by having a nice conversation. Sometimes it may extend to breakfast or lunch.

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10. Dare to sound desperate

Dare to sound desperate

Sometimes you have to take some risk. Dare to sound a little desperate to him. Try saying, ‘Would you like to spend some time with me? Please.’ Adding a ‘please’ shows your request and eagerness to date him. A number of men like to be loved. When you show your desperation toward him, it may trigger his ‘hero instinct‘. It makes him feel like a hero, women desire for. Sounding desperate make him feel valuable.

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11. Try going out in group

Try going out in group

Being rejected is a big thing for you especially when you already had a past experience. Overcoming a bad experience of being rejected by someone and gaining confidence afterwards is not easy. So, if you can’t stand the fear of rejection then asking him out as a part of group of friends is a good idea. This way, chance of rejection is lowest.

You may invite him to go out with you along with a group of friends. This way you can test his feelings for you. He may be interested in just being a good friend for you. When he feel a cool friendly vibe, he may tell you that he has someone else in his heart. This way you had a great time out there. You may feel a little bad for not receiving the expected results but you did found a good friend. This way you neither felt embarrassed nor proved desperate even if he reject your invitation as it was a group call.

On the other hand, if everything goes well, he may see the magical compatibility between you both. And next time you both may plan a proper date night.

If you want to learn science-based techniques to attract men and get him to commit to you, check out this free video here.

12. Keep an extra ticket to offer him

Keep an extra ticket to offer him

You also can buy two tickets to see an event of your guy’s interest. And during a casual conversation just ask him, ‘I have an extra ticket to this cool event, do you wanna go?’ This looks so filmy but it works very well. If you offer a baseball match ticket to your guy who is a fan of baseball, would he reject? No, he won’t, unless he has a good reason for his unavailability at that time.

Here the main trick is in what type of ticket you want to offer him. It may be any event such as a live concert, comedy show, magic show, sporting event, movie, party, etc. It should be a convertible event for him with respect to his interest. If the event doesn’t match guy’s interest, he may not accept unless he is really very interested in spending time with you.

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You need to make your invitation so casual that he won’t get any clue that this is pre planned by you. You have to show that you are very keen to attend the event but don’t have company. You don’t need to pressurize him, just put your proposal in a casual way and let a positive response come naturally. It’s an old trick but works well.

If you want to learn science-based techniques to attract men and get him to commit to you, check out this free video here.

13. Try buying him a drink

Try buying him a drink

Men like confident women who are independent and think out of the box. They find bold women sexy. If you try to buy him a drink, that may be shocking for him as it is very uncommon but he won’t be able to stop himself from accepting your offer. This untraditional gesture may attract his interest so that he would approach you and start the conversation. Due to it’s uniqueness, this method works very well.

If you want him to love you in all walks of life and get him to commit to you, check out this free video here.

14. Ask him to help you out

how to ask a guy out - Ask him to help you out

Try to find ways by which you can get his help. If he knows driving very well, you could ask him to help you learn driving. If he is a businessman, you could get his help in establishing your own business. These ways won’t look like dating but you can spend a good time to know each other’s feelings. You can use this opportunity to ignite the spark and make him to like you. If everything goes well, you can go for a proper date. If anything goes wrong, you can end this anytime.

If you want to make your man to fall in love with you obsessively, check out this free video here.

15. Get cozy with him

Get cozy with him

Before asking him out, you may express your feelings and intentions by making physical contact with him. It could be leaning over him while talking, making excuses to touch him or hugging him sometimes. Try being physical with him to see his reaction. If he gets your intentions and having the same in his mind then it would go well. If he doesn’t feel the same way as you are feeling and don’t want to go forward in this, then he would back off. It might be a sad moment for you but you saved yourself from being embarrassed.

Always keep in mind few things like being specific, confident and don’t feel disappointed if you get rejection.

You may also like to read this: How To Make Him Want You (19 Secret Ways)

Relationship psychologist James Bauer’s has published his new video in which he talks about these natural biological instincts in more detail which is easy to understand. In this video, James reveals a relationship “secret” which is known to only a few women in the world.

You can watch the video here.

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